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Recently, I attended a lecture given by Carol Burnet, one of the funniest people I’ve ever seen. She talked about her new book, her life, her daughter and of course her television and movie career. At the end, she took questions from the audience.

CarolBurnettThe question was asked, “how do you deal with rejection in such a competitive industry?”

Ms. Burnet answered, what is most important is that you go for what makes you passionate, what you have “fire in your belly for”. She told a story about a movie she had auditioned for, something she really wanted and was convinced she would be offered the part. It was between her and one other actress. Eventually the part was offered to the other actress.

She went on to explain when she learned of the results, she wasn’t sad or upset, in fact she was happy for the other actress, “it was her turn. It will be my turn soon enough.” As it turned out the phone rang the next day and she was offered a starring role in a major motion picture. She was excited, jubilant, and thrilled. It was her turn.

She summed it up by saying, be happy for others, do what you are passionate about, and be ready. Soon enough it will be your turn.

Life gives us plenty of aha moments. Opportunities and challenges that are set before our feet, inviting us to dive in head first. The question is, ‘Are we paying attention?’ Leanne Womack has a great song about it called, I hope you Dance.

Three years ago I had an AHA MOMENT. I capitalize, bold and italicize the words because for me they were life changing. I attended a performance of The Cirque de Soleil show of Iris one Sunday night at the grand Kodak Theatre in Hollywood, California. The show was about old Hollywood. Just after the intermission the actors began talking about the Academy Awards and who should win this year.


A man dressed in a Vaudeville suit went to the podium and said the nominees are: the first 3 names were in the cast, a camera quickly showed who they were. Then the name of an audience member was announced a few rows from me and the camera panned to him. Lastly the camera affixed itself to me and I heard the words, “our final nominee is Victor.” He opened the envelope and read, “the winner is Victor!”

The actors motioned to me to come join them on stage. This was my AHA MOMENT. Because in a split second I had to make a decision if I was going to be shy and say, “Oh I couldn’t possibly do something like that,” or I could run up on stage and play. I leaped to the stage and had the time of my life. I had a fight scene, a death scene, and an Academy Award Acceptance speech before 5,000 people I did not know. Even though I had no idea what was going to happen next, I played, and had the audience in hysterics. After the show people came up to me and asked me if I was actually part of the show.

The experience was life changing. “If I can do this, what else can I do?” My life has been on an accelerated path since then. In fact I looked back on all the things I have accomplished and had forgotten about: I have written books, been interviewed on television and in newspapers and national magazines, including Playgirl (I had my clothes on). I have started businesses, created products, fallen flat on my face, gotten back up, learned to kick-box, to do magic, to coach, to take risks, to be a friend, to pay it forward, and to do the things in life that make a difference really living the life I love.

Be aware of the Ah-Ha moments that present themselves to you. And when the next one appears, I hope you dance.

If I could sit down with one person today, and find out how they think, what drives them and how they have accomplished what they have, it would be Taylor Swift. Not, world or religious leaders, politicians or astronauts: Taylor Swift. At a very young age she has conquered the music world, fashion, fragrance and I just saw her in a commercial for Diet Coke.

taylor-swiftI heard an interview with her on the radio when her new CD, RED, was released. A question was asked, and I am paraphrasing, “Do you ever have doubts about what you are doing?” Her answer, and again I paraphrase, “only 40,000 times a minute.” Taylor Swift is on top of the world and she still has questions about what she is doing. However, she doesn’t allow her uncertainties to stand in the way of her goals. She knows what she wants and she moves towards her goals, constantly.

Doubt, fear, apprehension and procrastination are all dream killers. Think about what you truly want in life and then put together a plan, and get started today. I admire and respect Taylor Swift because she is so passionate and decisive about what she wants to accomplish, she allows nothing to stand in her way.

Are you ready to get your plan together? Contact me and we’ll get to work on building a future that you can live into.