Give it a rest | Victor Benoun

Victor Benoun


Our lives are complex and complicated. We have families, work, and obligations. A lot of what is put on our plate is time sensitive, requiring quick responses, especially with work and family. Even when we don’t fully understand what we are being tasked with, the clock becomes our enemy and our immediate attention is demanded.

Every so often, however, we elect to take on an additional challenge, something of our choosing, something we have a strong desire to accomplish, and yet in spite of this desire we struggle. It might be starting a business, writing a book, creating an art project or going back to school, just to name a few.

It doesn’t make sense, does it? After all this is something we have handpicked for ourselves, a passion, so why the struggle? It could be something as simple as, we just need more time to get comfortable and get our head around it, and we need to put it away and give it a rest until we are ready.

I had two situations in the last few weeks that made this evident. One was with my coaching business: a questionnaire I first attempted months ago, and could never complete. I picked it up again and much to my surprise, breezed through it. The second example was a magic trick I first learned three years ago, but could never master. I recently went back to it and performed the trick with an ease I never felt before. In fact over this past weekend I performed the trick at a party with outstanding results.

So what changed? What changes in all of us? I think it is time, maturity and a shift in our consciousness that prepares us for these opportunities. Perhaps other challenges have paved our way for success with our new undertaking. It’s hard to say. My suggestion though is if time is on your side, and you are not experiencing the results you are seeking, then put what you are doing down, and put it away. Give it some time while you visualize your success and feel good about what you are doing. Go back to it when you are ready and I think you will be pleased with the results. For the time being, however, give it a rest.