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Victor Benoun


If I could sit down with one person today, and find out how they think, what drives them and how they have accomplished what they have, it would be Taylor Swift. Not, world or religious leaders, politicians or astronauts: Taylor Swift. At a very young age she has conquered the music world, fashion, fragrance and I just saw her in a commercial for Diet Coke.

taylor-swiftI heard an interview with her on the radio when her new CD, RED, was released. A question was asked, and I am paraphrasing, “Do you ever have doubts about what you are doing?” Her answer, and again I paraphrase, “only 40,000 times a minute.” Taylor Swift is on top of the world and she still has questions about what she is doing. However, she doesn’t allow her uncertainties to stand in the way of her goals. She knows what she wants and she moves towards her goals, constantly.

Doubt, fear, apprehension and procrastination are all dream killers. Think about what you truly want in life and then put together a plan, and get started today. I admire and respect Taylor Swift because she is so passionate and decisive about what she wants to accomplish, she allows nothing to stand in her way.

Are you ready to get your plan together? Contact me and we’ll get to work on building a future that you can live into.

Do you have dreams and goals you truly desire to conquer in your life, but believe them to be impossible? If that’s the case, do you know why you believe it? Were you told they are impossible, or do you have your own beliefs and perhaps self-imposed limitations?

Look, we all do it, stop ourselves from achieving our greatest potential at times. But what if we asked, “why is this impossible? Is there a specific obstacle we must overcome? What really has to take place to make our goal possible?”

I have a situation now I am working on. No, I’m not changing the course of history or discovering life on a new planet, or even inventing a new get rich quick scheme. I am helping someone who needs to close a real estate transaction in less than 2 weeks. I have been a mortgage professional for 34 years. Normally it takes 30 to 45 days in this current regulation, guideline, legal world that we live in to complete a home loan.

I was told it will be impossible to close a loan so quickly. At first I concurred and shook my head yes in agreement. Then I started to think about it. Why? My obstacle was a time factor and that was all. Instead of looking at the entire goal as being unachievable I was able to dissect and isolate the one problem area. All I have to do to accommodate our client is A, B, C and D. Then it can close quickly. I shared this way of thinking with my team. We all got excited about it and agreed, it would be fun to make this happen for someone. We shifted our belief system and feelings from one of we can’t, to one of we can. Everyone was on board. The transaction is closing today in 1 ½ weeks: a modern day miracle.

Next time someone tells you something is impossible, don’t take it at face value. Kick it around in your head a bit. Think it over. Ask, why; exactly what is impossible about it? Everything that exists in our world today was impossible at some previous time. If someone is telling you it can’t be done, question that person….even if that someone is you!

Is this something you can relate to? Let me know your thoughts on Facebook or Twitter. And if you are ready to break thru the mission impossible in your life, contact me today for a coaching call.

Everyone has problems.  It’s a sign that you are alive.

In fact I say, there is nothing like a good quality problem to make you feel alive.  No?

There are times in our lives where we feel like we have the weight of the world on our shoulders, and the pressure practically overcomes us.  In previous years, I would have banged away at a problem, until I had some type of resolution, usually making myself sick in the process.

In more recent times I have learned a very effective formula for working out the challenges that come my way; I take a break.  That may sound counter-intuitive from what you think should be done, so let me explain.

Albert Einstein said, “you can’t solve a problem with the same mind that created it.”

When I feel overwhelmed and headaches are mounting, I step away, I go out for a cup of coffee, I call a friend.  I do all I can to change the energy! I do everything I can to change the way I am thinking and change the mind that created the annoyance in the first place.

Now, here is the key!

When I return to face whatever it is that I am dealing with I must change the way I am approaching the situation.  I must change my behavior or I will fall back into the same trap I was originally facing.  The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different result.

In a nutshell, I’ve learned the problem isn’t the problem. 

It’s the way I approach it. 

If I find myself running an old program through my head that stops me dead in my tracks and keeps me from seeing the  opportunities before me, I step away, call a friend, go to a movie, have a few laughs, change the energy.

Annoyances will continue to knock on my door, however, I have an effective way of answering them.