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The beginning of each year is not just a time to plan and set new goals. It is also a time to get clear on what you stand for, and what you insist on to be in and part of your life. Please don’t confuse this with saying what you won’t stand for. That’s easy, and doesn’t take much thought to say, “I won’t stand for this,” or “I won’t stand for that.”

It takes a lot more time and clarity to determine what your life must contain in order for it to be complete and to be your best life. I would like to suggest you start now and get really clear on your core values and decide what is really important to you. It can be difficult to get what you want if you don’t know what that is. I’ll share part of my list with you:

I stand for love and with my loved ones
I stand with my friends and for friendship
I stand for my four-legged-friends and will do all I can for them
I stand for trust, truth, and honesty
I stand for giving my clients my best and desire their appreciation in return
I stand for adventure and new experiences
I stand for reaching for the stars and falling flat on my face
I stand for getting up and starting over and succeeding
I stand for self esteem, appreciation and gratitude
I stand for passion, happiness and joy
I stand for making this the best day ever and for future days

I would like to encourage you to start your own list. Decide what you stand for, and if you feel so inclined please share. If you are not sure where to begin see if the attached video inspires you. Start your list with these 2 words: I Stand!

I told you last week as I started with my goals for 2016 that number 1, I want to be happy. That’s how my goal list for 2016 starts. And now it is filling in a bit with accomplishments I want to experience that are consistent with being happy so I am being very selective.

What I am finding is that I am being very choosey about what I am including. I am not writing things down just for the sake of it to fill up space. I am looking for goals which I have an emotional attachment to and want as part of my life.

Here’s why: all the filler is nothing but just that; filler. It doesn’t really matter to me if I do these things or not. That’s where the danger begins. Because when there is no emotional attachment or real excitement for what you are doing it’s easy to make excuses as to why you did not do them. Before long a good portion of your goals can look like an excuse log, and that can stop you dead in your tracks because you are now focusing on everything you did not accomplish and feeling bad about yourself.

Now, don’t confuse an excuse however with starting something new. Whenever we start something we are unfamiliar with, we may experience hesitation or fear or concern. It’s just because we are experiencing something we haven’t done before, but don’t let this become an excuse. Don’t let the “I don’t know how” to stand in your way and stop you from doing what you truly want. If we don’t do new things our lives will never change.

My suggestion is to focus like a laser beam on a few things which are of major importance to you and go for them. Don’t let anything stand in your way. I know that’s easier said than done, so if you are looking for a little inspiration watch the attached video of Jean Suk, a one-legged dancer performing on So You Think You Can Dance. He went for his passion and is an international sensation. He does what he loves, is passionate about it and has no excuses.

It’s that time of year again; you know, when it’s time to start listing all the things you want to accomplish for the New Year. Your goals! Yes your goals. How excited does that make you? If you are like me, then you are probably not very excited. I mean, haven’t we been this way before?

As the end of the year drew closer I started thinking about what I wanted, but I knew I couldn’t do it the way I have before. You know what I came up with? I want to be happy. I’m not 100% sure where that is taking me but I know where I am starting. As far as I’m concerned, that’s a great place to start. I also know that I want to soar, to accomplish great things and defy gravity, even if I don’t know exactly what that looks like.

So a few days ago I received a little help. I belong to a Mastermind group of people of different talents though we are all entrepreneurs and our meeting was dedicated to our goal setting for the coming year. And that’s when it got exciting. We didn’t focus on all the things we have to do. We know what they are. If we want to earn a living then we have to work. We have all been around long enough to know what that means.

Instead we strategized all the things we wanted to do. Oh my God the energy in the room was intoxicating. We were all so excited and helped each other in the pursuit of accomplishing our dreams, being happy and prosperous. We looked at our goals in terms of what we wanted to accomplish during the first quarter of next year as opposed to yearlong goals. By doing, this everything seemed more finite and therefore more real.

If you are thinking about your goals for next year and are having trouble determining what they are don’t feel excited, I want to encourage you to take a different approach. You know you want to be happy and that you want to accomplish great things and soar. Start with your own happiness and determine what that means. I’ve attached a video to help inspire you, to defy gravity.