I learned something long ago, when I am not getting the results I want; to ask a good question. For example, what can I do differently and how can I improve? The quality of the question determines my outcome.
Here’s why: when things aren’t going the way you want it’s easy to get stuck and fixate on the problem. By asking a good question, you go beyond the problem and focus on the outcome or the solution.
For example: what do I want to accomplish? How will I feel when I do? Why do I want it? Who else has done what I want to do? Thomas Edison was not the first person to create an incandescent light, but he was the first to create one for commercial purposes. He looked to others who had worked on the light bulb as well dating back to the early 1800’s. In 1879 and after 9000 attempts, Mr. Edison made his first successful attempt and his creation lasted for 13 hours. Each time something didn’t go according to plan, Edison asked himself questions as to how he could get better and improve and make his vision for the light bulb a reality.
If he had stopped or let the first problem get him down, well I might be writing this by candlelight.
Whatever you are doing, if things aren’t working out the way you want, stop what you are doing. Break your pattern and start asking good questions as to how to get the results you want. Hopefully it won’t take 9,000 attempts to accomplish your goal, but of each time you are improving and growing think of the great things you will learn and how your life can change and brighten; just like a light bulb.