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Victor Benoun

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As entrepreneurs, things don’t always go the way we would like. Especially when you are working on a transaction and there are many players involved and situations arise that you did not create, and yet are dropped in your lap with the expectation that you will resolve and fix it.

I just went through a really tough phase, a bumpy patch for sure just like this recently. I was working on several mortgage loans and it seemed like nothing went right no matter what I did. On top of that, I had several people reminding me how everything was going wrong.

I encountered sleepless nights, regular upset stomachs and was turning into a nervous wreck. It seemed like no matter what I did, more and more problems occurred, in fact all I could see were problems.

Has this ever happened to you: “Just when I thought things couldn’t get worse…this happened!” And then…this happened! And then this, and then this! Sound familiar?

The more you focus on a problem, the more problems you create and the bigger they become because all you can see is the problem. One of the most difficult things to do when you feel like you are being beaten down by life, is to shift your focus from the problem, to searching and concentrating on a solution. And yet that is exactly what has to be done.

My suggestion is that when you find yourself in the thick of it (and if you are an entrepreneur you will at some point) take breaks, find reasons to laugh and keep your eye on the solution. At some point the problem will pass, the solution will be accomplished and everyone will be happy. Even you

I’m the first to admit that when I was born and the handy around the house genes, or techie genes were being handed out, I must have been somewhere else. Maybe I was watching television, or in line at the snack bar, but I have a genuine fear of doing anything mechanical or technical.

My belief was that no matter what was wrong or needed to be repaired or installed I would only break it or make it worse. It’s difficult to go through life this way, though I have gotten to a ripe old age anyway. The problem was, every time I passed by something in the house that needed my attention or a new product I needed to install I felt like I was being mocked by it. “Here I am, waiting for you, and I know you can’t do it.” It’s not easy walking through the house feeling this way.

It was my own insecurity and what I perceived to be my own lack of ability. I can’t tell you that I never had an interest in being handy or tech savvy, I just had a deep lodged belief in my own failure at it.

Recent events however, have given me pause, and to reexamine my beliefs. A few months ago I purchased a small cell tower for the house to boost cell phone reception. Somehow (yes, I read the instructions) I figured out how to set it up and it worked! A small victory for sure but it gave me confidence. I also decided that doing my best would not be good enough. Nothing short of a working cell tower would do.

My next victory occurred just a few weeks ago when I switched my home phone provider to my cell phone provider. Again, another cell tower was required. This, I did again, much faster and again, it worked.

Last but not least, I was going to install Apple TV to one of my existing HD televisions. The television is a few years old, and only has 1 outlet for an HDMI cable (that’s technical talk. Call me and I’ll explain). My problem was that I needed to hook up satellite television, Apple television to my existing tv. Weeks went by without taking action because once again I heard the mocking in my head. I had tried once before but the store I went to sold me the wrong equipment which didn’t do much for my confidence.

I was determined. Once more I went to the local electronics store and purchased a Rocketfish 4 input converter. I read the instructions and thought my way through this. In about 10 minutes everything was hooked up and worked! I ran through the house with my arms in the air like I just scored the winning touchdown.

Here’s the thing, it doesn’t take much to change a belief system about what you can and can’t do. There are times when small steps can create huge momentum shifts in our beliefs and in our abilities. One victory lead to two, leads to three. Now I’m not expecting NASA to call me anytime soon for my expertise, and I don’t plan on adding a new wing to my house or build a computer from scratch, but from now on, nothing in my house or my world will mock me.

When I was a kid, I used to build model airplanes and trains and houses. I have to admit I thought I outgrew making models years (and years) ago. Yet here I am today, a middle aged man (or so I hope) still making models. However, they have taken on a different shape and a different purpose.

What’s your goal? What is important to you? If you can define what you want, and are looking for ways to make it come alive, so you can feel like you already have it even though physically it has not appeared yet, may I suggest building a model.

Here’s what I mean: If you want to write a book, go on line to New York Times Bestsellers list and print out a copy or go buy a copy of the paper. Whatever the current number 1 book is, white out the title, and insert the name of your book as well as your name. After you do that, take a moment and look at it and feel how it feels to have a number 1 book. Flow your energy towards that goal.

If you want to start a business, get magazines or pictures that represent the company that you want to built. Erase the current company name and insert your company name. Get a copy of Forbes magazine, or Success or Entrepreneur and look at the companies that are written about, and then write about what a success your company is, even though it does not exist yet.

You can do this with almost anything. If you want to break the current speed record for running the mile, write about and visualize and see yourself doing it. Feel how it feels to be the fastest human on the planet.

By doing this you are setting into motion a course of action that will help you and your goal come together faster than otherwise could be expected. You are making the unknown; known. You are making the unfamiliar, familiar. By creating a model and seeing and feeling your success you are actually bridging a gap between what you feel you can or cannot do.

Build a model, make a vision board, scrapbook, whatever is most comfortable for you and then look at your goal or dream several times a day. See it and feel it and know that it is possible. Models aren’t just for kids, they are for everyone.